HOW WE MET
early 2003 our ministry,
The Hill for Jesus, was in need of more
women volunteers. We also had a large event taking place in Capitol
Hill. I was wondering how we could let Christian women in our area
know about our ministry. I had a 'crazy idea'. What if I got on the
Internet and found Christian women who live in the Capitol Hill
area. I could post information about our ministry. We made it very
clear that we were not looking for a 'date'. We were looking for
ministry volunteers. To be very honest, all we found where postings
of women who wanted to talk about themselves and marriage.
None of them seemed interested in ministry.
I (Richard) began
wondering if there was any Christian women who were more concerned
about doing the things of God than just getting married. Out of the
search I found a posting by Carmi. Throughout her posting she
talked about Jesus, her relationship with God, and her ministry at
Lighthouse (a ministry for women who are homeless, walking in sexual
addicts). I was shocked. "There was such a thing as a godly woman
who loved ministry more than just getting married". I realized that
Carmi was a house manager for Lighthouse in Los Angeles and was
doing the very things that we desire to do here in Seattle.
I thought it would be good
to talk to her about the ministry and gain some insight. I contacted
her in July 2003. After talking with her, I was very impressed. I
started having a desire to see if she would check out our ministry
and maybe we could 'steal her' from the Lighthouse and she could
minister here on Capitol Hill. She would be a great asset. I had no
inclination about dating her or marriage. In fact, I made that very
clear to her in our conversations.
As we spoke more on the
phone, I realized that Carmi was becoming a good friend. She was a
very godly woman who had a great personality. Carmi agreed to come
here to Seattle during New Years. Everyone that met her said she
was a wonderful woman. I believed she would be a good person to be
on our ministry team. I saw Carmi as a sister in the Lord, not as a
'girlfriend'. While she was here we only had a few hours alone with
each other (to and from the airport). When she got on the plane we
both wished we had spent time together.
From New Years to now we
have seen God work in our relationship. Over and over again we
realized that there was more to our relationship than just being
ministry workers. As our friendship matured, our love matured.
Unlike most couples, we did not date. Instead we developed a healthy
friendship that became a godly intimate relationship that has
developed into the desire to spend our lives together as husband and
pursuing a love relationship, we pursued God together, and He
brought the romance into our relationship. Instead of pursuing a
physical relationship, we pursued a friendship and now we want
to experience the blessings of having an intimate relationship and
spend our life together serving Jesus Christ.